Regret can be helpful! It is a good teacher because it helps us (well, me) make better decisions in the future. I credit my regret for helping guide me in all aspects of my life: business, relationships, friendships, and family. For example, I regret having a falling out with a friend, so I work harder to avoid that outcome in my current friendships.
I love this perspective and agree! Regret can be such a useful teacher and guide...mistakes are anywhere from uncomfortable to deeply painful but it's sort of the old adage of "live and learn." The friendship example is a great one that I'm sure so many people can relate to (myself included). Thank you so much for sharing, Anna!
So interesting that regret and motherhood are your topics this week as that has been a struggle I have been drowning in. My specific twisty torture is that I regret having kids too soon. I regret getting married at 19 and never having my own time and truly, never having wreckless carefree youth. The twisty part comes in because I also carry deep grief in that I can’t have the tender years of my children’s youth back. They are teens now and though I homeschooled & entrepreneured for the very specific reason of having the MOST and BEST time with them.. alas.. never enough. I squeezed every bit of life out of our time together and still I grieve. I had the most cherishing motherhood and yet still I grieve the life I could have had on my own. I have the MOST gracious and loving husband and yet still I cherish the life that could be my very own. Regret feels more like grieving to me these days. I can’t quite bear the weight of the word regret.. the implications that I don’t want to have or have had those most important to me. But the grief remains. Currently doing what I do about it.. *over*-analyze, dive deep into the feels & write write write. Thank you for the perspective. It’s everything 🤍
This is such a beautiful and honest share and definitely something I WISH more people talked about...because this feels like it is so relatable for so many people. The idea of, and sort of longing to know, the other side of the path if the path had gone another route. I agree, grief feels like the embodied feeling here. Thank you so much for sharing your words and heart. They always add so much 💛
I too regret not going to a concert when I lived up in Boston because shortly after the lead singer left the band. I’ve seen him perform at a special acoustic show and with his new band, but I’m now taking a more “you only live once” approach to concerts and events.
Curious if you’ll spill the beans on what concert you regret missing?
Ahhhh! I felt this in my soul. Getting to see him solo or in a new band is great, but I totally feel the regret of not getting to see him in the dynamic of the group you loved. With you on the YOLO factor for concerts and events!
It was a Feist concert! I love her. I forget if it was at the Hollywood Bowl or the Greek in Los Angeles. There was something going on after that I was also invited to, and now looking back I know the whole thing would have been an unforgettable experience. So now I make sure I take advantage of other potentially unforgettable experiences :)
Love this SO MUCH.
Thought you might ;) LOVE you
regret is what's left of a conflict that is not resolved and prevented
Regret can be helpful! It is a good teacher because it helps us (well, me) make better decisions in the future. I credit my regret for helping guide me in all aspects of my life: business, relationships, friendships, and family. For example, I regret having a falling out with a friend, so I work harder to avoid that outcome in my current friendships.
I love this perspective and agree! Regret can be such a useful teacher and guide...mistakes are anywhere from uncomfortable to deeply painful but it's sort of the old adage of "live and learn." The friendship example is a great one that I'm sure so many people can relate to (myself included). Thank you so much for sharing, Anna!
So interesting that regret and motherhood are your topics this week as that has been a struggle I have been drowning in. My specific twisty torture is that I regret having kids too soon. I regret getting married at 19 and never having my own time and truly, never having wreckless carefree youth. The twisty part comes in because I also carry deep grief in that I can’t have the tender years of my children’s youth back. They are teens now and though I homeschooled & entrepreneured for the very specific reason of having the MOST and BEST time with them.. alas.. never enough. I squeezed every bit of life out of our time together and still I grieve. I had the most cherishing motherhood and yet still I grieve the life I could have had on my own. I have the MOST gracious and loving husband and yet still I cherish the life that could be my very own. Regret feels more like grieving to me these days. I can’t quite bear the weight of the word regret.. the implications that I don’t want to have or have had those most important to me. But the grief remains. Currently doing what I do about it.. *over*-analyze, dive deep into the feels & write write write. Thank you for the perspective. It’s everything 🤍
This is such a beautiful and honest share and definitely something I WISH more people talked about...because this feels like it is so relatable for so many people. The idea of, and sort of longing to know, the other side of the path if the path had gone another route. I agree, grief feels like the embodied feeling here. Thank you so much for sharing your words and heart. They always add so much 💛
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I too regret not going to a concert when I lived up in Boston because shortly after the lead singer left the band. I’ve seen him perform at a special acoustic show and with his new band, but I’m now taking a more “you only live once” approach to concerts and events.
Curious if you’ll spill the beans on what concert you regret missing?
Ahhhh! I felt this in my soul. Getting to see him solo or in a new band is great, but I totally feel the regret of not getting to see him in the dynamic of the group you loved. With you on the YOLO factor for concerts and events!
It was a Feist concert! I love her. I forget if it was at the Hollywood Bowl or the Greek in Los Angeles. There was something going on after that I was also invited to, and now looking back I know the whole thing would have been an unforgettable experience. So now I make sure I take advantage of other potentially unforgettable experiences :)