Regret can be helpful! It is a good teacher because it helps us (well, me) make better decisions in the future. I credit my regret for helping guide me in all aspects of my life: business, relationships, friendships, and family. For example, I regret having a falling out with a friend, so I work harder to avoid that outcome in my current friendships.
So interesting that regret and motherhood are your topics this week as that has been a struggle I have been drowning in. My specific twisty torture is that I regret having kids too soon. I regret getting married at 19 and never having my own time and truly, never having wreckless carefree youth. The twisty part comes in because I also carry deep grief in that I can’t have the tender years of my children’s youth back. They are teens now and though I homeschooled & entrepreneured for the very specific reason of having the MOST and BEST time with them.. alas.. never enough. I squeezed every bit of life out of our time together and still I grieve. I had the most cherishing motherhood and yet still I grieve the life I could have had on my own. I have the MOST gracious and loving husband and yet still I cherish the life that could be my very own. Regret feels more like grieving to me these days. I can’t quite bear the weight of the word regret.. the implications that I don’t want to have or have had those most important to me. But the grief remains. Currently doing what I do about it.. *over*-analyze, dive deep into the feels & write write write. Thank you for the perspective. It’s everything 🤍
Love this SO MUCH.
regret is what's left of a conflict that is not resolved and prevented
Regret can be helpful! It is a good teacher because it helps us (well, me) make better decisions in the future. I credit my regret for helping guide me in all aspects of my life: business, relationships, friendships, and family. For example, I regret having a falling out with a friend, so I work harder to avoid that outcome in my current friendships.
So interesting that regret and motherhood are your topics this week as that has been a struggle I have been drowning in. My specific twisty torture is that I regret having kids too soon. I regret getting married at 19 and never having my own time and truly, never having wreckless carefree youth. The twisty part comes in because I also carry deep grief in that I can’t have the tender years of my children’s youth back. They are teens now and though I homeschooled & entrepreneured for the very specific reason of having the MOST and BEST time with them.. alas.. never enough. I squeezed every bit of life out of our time together and still I grieve. I had the most cherishing motherhood and yet still I grieve the life I could have had on my own. I have the MOST gracious and loving husband and yet still I cherish the life that could be my very own. Regret feels more like grieving to me these days. I can’t quite bear the weight of the word regret.. the implications that I don’t want to have or have had those most important to me. But the grief remains. Currently doing what I do about it.. *over*-analyze, dive deep into the feels & write write write. Thank you for the perspective. It’s everything 🤍
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